My son has his driver’s license now. I wasn’t quite ready for this, but his dad and I certainly appreciate being released from some of the chauffeuring about town. On the other hand I used to have some good conversations with the kid in the car.
As our kids become more independent, my husband and I are watching our parents become more frail. I watch my mom struggle with with both cognitive and physical issues. How long will my mom live in her frail state, a decade? Mom’s struggle to stay independent means she’ll see suggestions to make her like easier as people trying to boss her around. I’m a nurse. Spending time on the other side though, as a family member, through ER visits, hospitalizations and doctor’s appointments is eye opening. Many wonderful caregivers, some not so wonderful. Some definite concerns during the ER visits, the most basic of nursing care needs to be addressed along with the more complex tasks.
My husband is watching his dad become more frail. I sit on the sidelines and watch the difficult family dynamics. Dynamics that are perhaps changed by the presence of my father in law’s second wife, who he married very late in life. His children have less of a voice as his wife claims to know what is best for him.
I frequently visit the website of my “hometown” newspaper. This week I saw that a former classmate had died. She was a woman. As far as I can tell, it has been the guys I grew up with who died early. I was surprised to see her name. We weren’t close, but I still wondered what happened to her, what caused her to die relatively early. I also a former coworker in the obituaries, see her name was another surprise.
The circle of life comes with much joy, but also sadness. I’m not ready for the s.adness