My sister has been staying at my mom’s house for a visit. These visits are tremendously stressful for her because she will harbor the ideas of guilt of what she should be doing for her mom, but her ideas of what she could be doing rarely turn into action because she becomes quickly overwhelmed. My sister and my mom can’t get along but they have this relationship where they can’t leave each other alone and I often play odd man out.
I went to visit, a bit of a drive from where I live. I thought we would have some lunch and that would be it. As soon as I get there, I can see my mother is struggling to keep up with being able to live alone. I don’t know that she takes her meds appropriately. Any suggestions of what could be done to make her life easier are instantly shot down.
At this point my mother is angry that we have confronted some of the issues that she struggles with. She takes her anger out on my sister who has been drinking during her stay with my mom. Now I more than anyone understand the anger and frustration with my sister’s drinking. The things my mom says though are unspeakably cruel. She calls her a slut multiple times, she says she wants nothing to do with her and that she(my sister) is not her daughter any more.
At this time my sister’s normal reaction is to bolt. She usually ends up in a bar somewhere. This time she tells me she can’t take her life anymore, she is depressed and wants to get help.
So we go to the emergency room and work our way through the system to see what can be done. Her blood alcohol level is sky high. The staff asks her lots of questions and her answers sometimes vary. A physician asks her about the quantity she drinks each day. On this occasion she says her drink of choice is wine(she drinks anything). Once she tells him she drinks two glasses of wine. Another time she tells him she drinks a box of wine a day. “A box?” he says, puzzled, but then moves on. I’m not sure the physician knew boxed wine was an actual thing.
My sister is directed to a treatment center eventually where she currently withdrawing from alcohol. I hope it works. Earlier in the week she had attended an AA meeting where she met a man who gave her more alcohol and tried to assault her.
I’m not sure what the answers are. I pray that this time she can gain peace and sobriety.