I recently tried to have a discussion with a gaslighter, to convince him of my truths and experiences. If you don’t know, gaslighting is a psychological term where the gaslighter tries to separate another from their reality, to make them doubt themselves, and their sanity. The more he tried to gaslight me, the more I wanted to speak my truth. Instead I should have just walked away.
My parents would sometimes gaslight me when I was a kid. I think my mom still does today. I wonder, was she conscious of what she was doing? I know she imagined my life in a certain way, if I told her something that contradicted that she didn’t want to listen.
Once, when my daughter was in elementary school, she came home and told me a story about her school day. I can’t remember the details about the story but the words “oh, that didn’t happen” started coming out of my mouth. I was mortified at myself for saying those words. This is something my mother would have done so she wouldn’t have to deal with the reality of whatever I was saying.
Have you ever had an experience with gaslighting?