Today’s writing prompt asks us if we hold grudges, or do we try to forgive and forget? It was my family’s style to hold grudges for a very long time. I try not to spend much mental energy holding grudges…my family used to spend hours rehashing all the details about how someone had wronged them. I was expected to participate in the grudge holding as well. If they hated someone..well I should as well.
I try to forgive, but then move on. I don’t think forgiveness always means that you put yourself in a situation to be hurt again. It doesn’t mean you put your full trust in assuming that person will act in good faith in the future. It might mean that you change the way you negotiate the relationship with the person who hurt you…of course this doesn’t apply to minor transgressions.